This individual has a fear of making mistakes. They wished they had a different attitude towards making mistakes and the following points are what came out of our conversation. I share it with you in the hopes that this might help anyone else who is suffering from a fear of mistakes.
If we not making mistakes, we're not learning! How did we learn to walk? By falling down and getting back up, and we did it with a grin on our face because there was somebody cheering us on. So what happened? We grew up and some where along the way we lost the grin. If you're not making mistakes, it means you're not taking chances. You're playing it safe. You're not growing. Comfort zones are wonderful places until they become a trap.
In our society, we count the cost of mistakes, but not their value! How do we learn? By making mistakes. But when we make a mistake we focus on the time and materials wasted and NOT on what we learned! How else could we have learned it - through years of getting it right?
Every time I put the brush/pencil/crayon down on the paper I know I could fail. So what? No one's going to get hurt, nothing horrible (like the Earth might stop spinning) is going to happen and everyone will still love me. So I wasted some paper, some time and a little paint. What did I learn?
Well, I could say I learned not to do something a certain way. But what else did I learn? It takes looking close to see what other lessons are there to be learned. I've found some really cool effects by making mistakes:
- I've got an awesome background in one painting because I scrubbed it out so many times that I got a great texture. Would I have liked to have gotten it right the first time? Of course, but I've used that texture since and it won me a ribbon in a recent show!
- I've found some really cool color combinations because I wasn't paying attention to where I put my brush on the palette. That taught me to pay more attention to what I'm doing and I also learned that some times an unusual color can really make a painting sing!
- I've had the occasional "drop the loaded brush in the middle of the nearly finished painting" experience too. It is simply amazing how creative I can get when I have to find a way to cover up a stain so that I don't lose a painting!
Does it do any good to kick and scream and whine and cuss and tear out our hair when we make a mistake? No, though it can be mighty entertaining (at times) to others in the near vicinity! Rather than nash teeth, why not take a closer look and see what else there is to learn? Embrace the mistake and know that you're learning! Try to find ways the mistakes can make us stronger and better as artists. All things happen for a reason. It's up to us to figure out why . . .